Open and Close

I prefer a private wedding party with limited people. Only family, colleagues, and close friends will be there. I think about 200-250 people only. They will sit in a round table, eating, talking, laughing, and watching the reception with joyful heart.

I never intend to spread the invitation to any social media. I want to send it one by one. Even it’s through text message, post, email, private message, or I give it personally.

I am the close one. I want only some people, who really know about me, who care, will come.

However, Lam is different. He is the open one.

He would like to invite everybody, every family, every relatives, every friend, colleague, senior, junior, to the event. He thinks about 500 people or more, standing up, enjoying music, food and taking pictures.

He wants to go public, while I want to take private.

We know we are different, but as we write in our invitation:

“Despite of all our differences, we choose to be together”




He makes me laugh.

He sees me like there's no one else.

He stands by me.

Despite of all our differences, he chooses me.



Dear Nong,

Sorry for not being there, while you are busy with your wedding preparation and I am here, across the island from home. Pasti rasanya nyesek pas mau nikah tapi saudara gak ada yang bisa bantuin dan malah sibuk kerja.

Maaf Nong, but I try my best to help you and wish for your preparation. Saya juga tidak mau jauh dari rumah, tapi apa boleh buat ini sudah terjadi, saya sudah terlanjur kerja di Jakarta dan hanya boleh pulang sesekali.

But Insha Allah on 3 October I already at home, bantu-bantu sebisanya apa yang belum kelar.

Semoga rejekimu lancar, my sister. Semoga persiapan dan nikahan dan after weddingmu semuanya dimudahkan.